Spiritual Levels of Love

Can we force love to happen? Each one must ask him/herself to obtain an answer to this question.

How does one start the questioning process?

Many people start with examining their inner life for a source of love. Some people may have grown up without experiencing parental love through a lack of early bonding; others may feel that they have to engage in actions that deserve love. Still other may turn to Religion in search of love.

Perhaps we ought to start by defining what love is, if this is possible.

Many people show love in the ways they hope to receive love (the golden rule of doing unto others as you would have others do unto you) but this assumes ones partner defines love the same way. But in reality people make different assumptions about love.

One wants physical connection, the other wants to go on a walk together; one wants to buy gifts to show affection but the other would rather have him put the money in the bank, or do the dishes, do the laundry because that's to them a definition of love.

When couples start speaking the same language, they begin to feel understood, acknowledged and appreciated. When couples stop making assumptions about what love means to their partner, they start having better conversations and they begin to relate more consciously. Funny how something that seems so simple is actually quite complicated.